The Big "D"

First of all, I want to say I’m not condemning anyone of anything. This is just my prospective.

While sitting at the dentist office yesterday I overheard the two ladies next to me talking. No, I wasn’t eaves dropping, it was a small waiting room. They were apparently both divorced. They were both sitting there talking about the difficulties they had with the ex-husbands. Getting insurance info and even getting them to see their kids. Later on I watched the movie “Tyler Perry’s Why I got Married Too.” I watched it and saw the people going thru a divorce on there. And a few weeks ago I looked in the paper and was completely amazed at how many people in our small county had applied for a divorce. It made me think.

My parents have been married for over 30 years, my in-laws near 40. My grandparents were married over 50! My husband and I have been married for 13. When I tell people that today they are amazed. Oh wow, that’s a long time they say. I think about how sad that is, when I compare it to my family. I don’t want 13 years to be a long time. My neighbors have been married for 62 years. They are so happy still. I am so glad that when I got married I knowingly made the decision that it was “till death do us part”. I want to be married to my husband for 80 years, maybe longer. My Papa told me “We Crow’s (my maiden name) don’t get divorced.” at my wedding. I took that to heart. I know my marriage is far from perfect, we often fight like little kids. But that’s ok. No one ever said being married would be easy.

A young friend said “Why can’t relationships be like the movies? It would be so much easier.” I laughed, because I remember thinking that in the past. But now I realize that yes, they might be easier, but they’d be a lot less interesting and would get old and way to predictable quickly.

I have no plans to ever be divorced, not that anyone ever does. I try very hard to keep that word completely out of my vocabulary. (Although, I must admit that the words mysteriously disappeared, while listening to the Dixie Chicks sing “Goodbye Earl” or watching “Fried Green Tomatoes” do occasionally go thru my head, lol.) I am so happy that I am married and that I don’t have to deal with the difficulties that divorce brings with it. I pray daily for my husband and for my marriage and for the future marriages of my children. I pray that we will continue the family tradition of long marriages. Life is hard enough with out having to deal with the big “D”.