I just read a friend’s post on another blog. It was a major wake up call. Where are my priorities? I know I’ve posted on things like this before, but this is different. I mean at home- where are my priorities? I am lucky and blessed enough to be able to stay home with my kids. The youngest only has one more year home with me….I can’t believe it, but I digress. Her post was actually about being gentle with yourself when you have small children and to not feel bad when you have to put other things outside the home off so you can take care of your home. That got me thinking…do I put other things above my home– well…..ummm….hmmmm…..yes.
At any moment if you dropped by my home would definitely have that “lived-in” look, but more like it’s been lived in by zoo animals, not 2 adults and 3 kids. I’ll admit it, I DO NOT like to clean, I never have, just ask my parents they’ll tell you. (Ok so maybe don’t ask them b/c I’d hate your vision of me as a domestic goddess from birth to be blasted to bits, lol). No seriously, keeping my house clean, not high on my list of priorities. BUT–that’s not why God gave me the ability to stay home, He didn’t say “Go stay home so you can lay around the house watching soaps and eating bon-bons.” He gave me this blessing so I could take care of my family. That unfortunately (well for me) includes keeping up with my house. My kids have the same problem as me, their rooms are trashed, and there really isn’t anyone to blame but me….I know- you can says “Do as I say, not as I do.” but there’s also that nasty little saying “Actions speak louder than words.” So, why would my kids think taking care of their stuff is important if I don’t even take care of my house.
I’m not really sure what I was thinking when I decided to stay home. What I mean is what did I think I was going to do??? I’ve tried all kinds of different things to make me stay on track with cleaning my house, and they work, when I do them. But if I don’t make them a priority it doesn’t matter. My home and keeping it neat and tidy (not like mansion or museum clean, just picked up) MUST become a priority in my life. If I am taking care of my home, my kids will learn a multitude of lessons from that. If my house is picked up, then I can sit and read books instead of saying, “just a minute, mommy needs to do this first”. I know it may sound silly to think of being able to keep your house clean as a blessing, but it is. If I grump and complain while I do it, then my kids will, and they do–believe me.
Not only will having a nice house benefit me and my kids, but it will benefit my husband too. He works hard all day and I can’t imagine what it feels like to come home to a “trashed” house at the end of the day. If he does his part, surely I can do mine. Plus I know it’s something that he needs. He feels like he can relax when the house is clean, and when it isn’t he feels like he has to keep working once he gets home. This is my job, it’s what I chose to do as a career. So I’m guessing I need to treat it that way a bit too. I’m betting that if I had a boss, a promotion and raise probably wouldn’t be coming my way any time soon. I know I feel a sense of pride and accomplishment when he comes home and it’s clean too. Plus, I can work on my hobbies when it’s done. Bonus!!
It’s relatively simple, if I keep up with my house other things will fall into places. I’m pretty sure that a large part of Simple Living for me, is to make my house neat and tidy, so I can enjoy other things. God gave me a gift, I am able to stay home, and I need to use that to take care of the other gifts he gave me. One of them being this beautiful (to me anyway) home out in the quiet country on 10 wooded acres. Thank you Lord for my blessings, help me remember that as I take care of my blessings I am teaching them the love that you have given me.